10 Quick Tips to Simplify Life as a SAHM

10 Quick Tips to Simplify Life as a SAHM

Being a stay-at-home mom is one of the most rewarding yet challenging jobs in the world. From managing the household to taking care of little ones, the responsibilities can sometimes feel overwhelming. However, after seven years as a SAHM, I’ve learned that with the right strategies and mindset, it’s possible to maintain your sanity and find joy in the journey of motherhood. 

It took me awhile to find my footing as stay-at-home mom after my first kiddo was born and was even more challenging after my second came around. But, I’ve discovered some sanity-saving tips that have helped me navigate the ups and downs of this role. Here are 10 tips to help you maintain your sanity as a stay-at-home mom:

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Establish a Routine

Creating a daily routine can provide structure and stability to your days. Set specific times for activities such as meals, naps, playtime, and household chores. Having a predictable schedule can reduce stress and help you feel more in control of your day.

Some days your routine will be fairly predictable, other days not so much. I liked to keep a flexible routine like: wake up, eat breakfast, play, get out of the house (park or errands), eat a snack, come home and play, eat lunch, quiet time or take a nap, play outside at home, eat dinner, evening walk or family playtime, go down for bed.

While the schedule felt structured, it didn’t feel rigid, which gave me flexibility based on the kids temperament and what we needed to get done in a day.

Take Breaks

It’s essential to carve out time for yourself amidst the busyness of motherhood. Whether it’s a few minutes of meditation, a hot bath, or a walk around the block, prioritize self-care. Remember, you can’t pour from an empty cup, so make self-care a non-negotiable part of your routine.

A therapist once recommended that both my husband and I each get one evening out of the house. When we weren’t responsible for dinner or bedtime. While, we don’t follow that rule all the time, we are both understanding when the other parent says they need to tap out for a night.

Throughout the day, I will sometimes head to another part of the house and just sit. Sometimes I read, scroll on my phone, close my eyes, or fold laundry, just to have a quiet moment. It may last 5 minutes, it may last 20, but I enjoy each second.

Connect with Other Moms

Building a support network of other stay-at-home moms can be invaluable. Join local mom groups, attend playdates, or connect with other moms online. Sharing experiences, advice, and laughter with fellow moms can make you feel understood and less isolated.

Keeping in touch with long distance mom-friends via text and social media has also made life feel a bit less lonely. Especially when we first moved to this area and I didn’t know many other moms.

a woman and a child carrying laundry

Delegate Household Tasks

You don’t have to do everything yourself. Delegate household chores to your partner, older children, or consider hiring help if feasible. Assigning responsibilities can lighten your load and free up time for activities that bring you joy.

If you and your partner need to have a bigger conversation about household delegation,  I recommend reading Fair Play. It was eye opening to see that resentment can come about when partners don’t understand the tasks or duties that the other is responsible for. While sometimes the weight of taking care of a family can feel one-sided, using the Fair Play cards to have an honest, in-depth conversation about expectations and needs has made a world of difference in our household.

Set Realistic Expectations

As a stay-at-home mom, it’s easy to fall into the trap of perfectionism. Remember that it’s okay to have days that don’t go as planned. And honestly, most days won’t go as planned. It took me a long time for me to figure that out and roll with it.

Be kind to yourself and set realistic expectations. Focus on progress, not perfection, and celebrate the small victories along the way. Prioritize what brings you peace and joy as a mom. A lot of the other stuff can wait.

Prioritize Sleep

I wish I prioritized this sooner. I thought I could get by on 5-6 hours of sleep a night. Turns out I need 7-9 hours a night, minimum. And until I made sleep a priority, I never really felt like myself. 

Adequate sleep is crucial for your physical and mental well-being. Make sleep a priority by establishing a bedtime routine and creating a conducive sleep environment. If possible, take naps during the day to recharge when your little one sleeps. Sometimes I will take a quick cat nap for 15 minutes, and that helps me feel motivated to get through the rest of the day. I set my watch for 15 minutes and close my eyes, and always hope the kids won’t bother me during that time. 

a woman running with a stroller on the beach

Find Time for Hobbies

Don’t forget to nurture your interests and hobbies outside of motherhood. Whether it’s reading, gardening, crafting, or exercising, make time for activities that bring you fulfillment and allow you to recharge. Engaging in hobbies can boost your mood and overall satisfaction with life.

I found this the most difficult habit to create, but the most rewarding. Sometimes I get up early on weekends to go for morning walks alone while I listen to a podcast or lecture. I have also picked up adult color by number and continue with blogging to give myself something that feels like mine.

Sometimes, I have to stack my hobbies, like walking by the beach or listening to a podcast, with activities I do with the kids, like pushing them in the stroller or taking them to the park.. It’s not ideal, but it’s been a good way for me to feel like I am doing something for myself.

Practice Gratitude

Cultivating a mindset of gratitude can shift your perspective and increase your resilience. Take time each day to reflect on the things you’re grateful for, whether it’s a warm hug from your child or a beautiful sunset. Focusing on the positive aspects of your life can help you navigate challenges with grace.

I’ve been using a five minute journal to keep it simple yet meaningful. I find out on days when I look for how other people are helping me out, serving me, I get resentful. But when I focus on how I can make others happy that I am in their lives, that my attitude is much more relaxed and loving.

Seek Support When Needed

It’s okay to ask for help when you need it. Whether you’re feeling overwhelmed, stressed, or experiencing mental health concerns, reach out to a trusted friend, family member, or healthcare professional. You don’t have to navigate motherhood alone, and seeking support is a sign of strength, not weakness.

I will call family to come and help me when needed. I’ve been desparate enough to fly my mom across the country to come help out. Because I needed it. I needed her calm presence, her willing attitude, and her sense of humor to get me back on track during a tough time.

I’ve also recruited a therapist to regularly help me talk through situations in life that feel heavy. It’s so helpful to speak to someone, not related to me, who is unbiased and can give it to me straight – even if it’s the tough love I’ve been avoiding.

a child in a diaper playing on couch in a messy living room

Embrace Imperfection

Finally, embrace the messiness and imperfection of motherhood. Remember that you’re doing the best you can with the resources you have. Allow yourself to let go of unrealistic expectations and embrace the beauty of the imperfect moments. Your love and presence are what truly matter to your family.

When I focus more on the time spent together, the moments of focusing on my kids, and not worrying about the rest of the world (their opinions or expectations), I find myself at my happiest when being home with my kids.

In conclusion, being a stay-at-home mom comes with its challenges, but it’s also filled with countless joys and rewards. By implementing these sanity-saving tips, you can navigate motherhood with greater ease and grace. Remember to prioritize self-care, seek support when needed, and embrace the journey with an open heart. You’ve got this, mama! And if you ever need someone to talk things out with… send me an email, I am always here.

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