Confidence-Boosting Tips for New Moms

Confidence-Boosting Tips for New Moms

Becoming a mom is a big deal, and it comes with major changes to your life, your body, and often your confidence. As your baby becomes the priority, it’s not uncommon to deprioritize yourself. In recent years, we’ve all learned more about the importance of maintaining self-care for overall health. Both mental and physical health are important here, so ensure you’re tackling both. Even when you’re tired, a confidence-boosting glow-up is good for you and for your baby. So, new moms, here’s how to get started. 

Identify Where Your Confidence is Struggling

Almost everyone’s confidence takes a hit after having a baby. Being a new mom is hard! You’re learning how to care for this new tiny person – who is constantly growing and changing – on very little sleep. Most new moms feel insecure about some part of new motherhood. Along with feeling a lack of confidence about the baby, it can also be difficult to adjust to your own body changes. After carrying a baby, giving birth, or even just a total lack of sleep, your body might feel unfamiliar to you. 

The good news is, you’re not alone in feeling this way, and you can boost your confidence again no matter where you’re struggling. Below are a few tips to help you glow-up, physically and mentally, so you’re able to take on new motherhood with greater confidence overall.

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Tip 1: Prioritize Mental Health

Your mental health is critical when you’re a new mom, and it’s also far too easy to sideline. Between lack of sleep, a mountain of new skills and information to absorb, and the way moms are judged as a whole, it’s no wonder confidence can start to crumble quickly. There’s a lot going on in a new mom’s life, but prioritizing your mental health helps you tackle it all more successfully. Find ways to improve your confidence in any areas that your mental health may have taken a hit. Here are a few ideas.

  • Do your homework. If you’re feeling like a rookie, do a little research about anything you need more info on. Read books, talk to your pediatrician, or talk to experienced parents for ideas. 
  • Remember that every baby is different. There’s no one-size-fits-all solution to baby care, which is why it’s so hard! Speak kindly to yourself and remember that learning your baby takes time.
  • Talk about it. It’s normal to feel anxious, overwhelmed, or even guilty. Verbalize what you feel with a loved one or therapist. Sometimes just that is enough, but voicing it also helps you find solutions. 
  • Ask for help. It’s okay to ask for help when you need it. Ask a friend to watch the baby so you can shower, or ask someone to help you prep some meals. If you’re struggling, consider seeing a therapist. Therapy can be helpful for everyone, but especially for people struggling with anxiety, depression, or guilt.
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Tip 2: Attend to Your Physical Health

Your physical health may seem like a last resort when you have a new baby to care for, but it should actually be a top priority. New moms are sleep deprived and often physically recovering from major body changes, along with labor and delivery, so putting your physical health at the top of the list is essential. Here’s how to do that. 

  • Sleep as much as possible. I know, hilarious when you’re up at all hours feeding a new baby, but it really is important. See if a partner or loved one can take one feeding at night so you can get at least 4 hours of sleep in a row. Then sleep whenever you safely can. Even a short nap while baby naps can help. 
  • Go outside. Leaving the house may sound like a lot of work, but it’s worth it. Go for short walks with your baby in a carrier or stroller, or sit outside for even 10 minutes. You’ll find your baby loves it, too.
  • Do things that make your body feel good. Get dressed in your favorite clothes each day, have a dance party, or throw on a sexy workout outfit and head to yoga. Getting dressed and moving your body feels good physically and mentally, so make that work for you. Additionally, exercise can combat anxiety and depression, so prioritize moving in ways you enjoy.
  • Eat well and stay hydrated. These things may sound both trivial and impossible, but they make a huge difference – especially if you’re breastfeeding or recovering from delivery. Have healthy, ready-to-go snacks available (like carrot sticks, apples, clementines, blueberries, granola bars, and nuts) and keep a full water bottle nearby at all times. 
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Tip 3: Be Patient

Feeling confident in anything takes time, so be patient with yourself! You’ll be learning to do new things constantly for a while, and that’s challenging! Have realistic expectations for yourself. Are you going to keep the entire house perfectly clean and make every meal and possibly even go back to work in the first several weeks? Nope. So be patient with yourself and give yourself grace. Here’s what to remember.

  • Slow down. There’s always more to do, so don’t overdo it. Some days, all you’ll manage to do is change diapers and feed the baby, and that’s okay. 
  • Plan for extra time. If you’re frustrated with how long it takes to get things done or get out of the house, try to plan for plenty of time-padding, and then try not to worry about it. Some days it will take a full half hour to leave the house for a 10 minute appointment. It’s okay. 
  • Don’t blame yourself. Things will go wrong. You’re learning while doing! If you talk to enough honest parents, you’ll see even experienced parents learn from trial and error. Be patient with yourself when things go awry and remember that you’re learning with a growing, changing baby.
  • Learn when to politely ignore. For whatever reason, people cannot help themselves when it comes to giving unsolicited advice to new moms. Learn how to patiently take the helpful and ignore the rest. 

In Conclusion

Don’t underestimate the power of communication and seeking support. Whether it’s sharing your feelings with a loved one or reaching out for professional help, remember that you don’t have to navigate challenges alone. By expressing your emotions and asking for assistance, you’re taking proactive steps toward finding solutions and prioritizing your well-being. Embrace the support available to you, and remember that it’s perfectly okay to lean on others during difficult times.

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